Concealers, Playgrounds, and Weekend Links for You and Me

Holy shit, hello, hi! Here I am, alive and well, and despite the fact that I've been slaving away on other corners of the Internet, I promise you I'm still here! Fall is now full-on here and I've been delighting in it completely. It's truly worth dealing with the disgusting summers and never-ending winters to experience Autumn in New York. I've been running around like a bat out of hell lately, but I wanted to let you know about some of my latest obsessions.

First things first though, does everyone hate Uber as much as I do? Besides the fact that the company itself seems suuuuuper shady, I have the worst fucking luck with it and I'm so over it! Case in point: Wednesday morning I had a press event to get to and got offered me a free code so I could Uber over for free! I was like oooh, I've made it world, here I come, I am fancy as shit! But of course when it actually came time to use it, Uber didn't recognize my account and kept trying to send me codes to reactivate it, none of which worked, and all of which took insanely long to get to me. This ended with me in the subway about to get on the train when the app started working. So, like a total fool, I darted up to the street to get into my car, only to be stuck in traffic and jump out and run two avenues over and still be late to my event. Oh also, had a bloody nose the whole time. Like, what? Who does this happen to? When will I be glamorous?

Other than that, I've mainly just been watching lots of Black Mirror, which has been surprisingly emotional! The end of San Junipero gutted me, what a freaking beautiful episode! Don't worry, I'm ignoring all the messages about the perils of the Internet and social media and writing a style piece on this season over on HG next week, so stay tuned! But all this crying while watching TV has put my new concealer to the test, and OMG, you guys need to get on this. 

I am a concealer fanatic because I have some serious under-eye circles. Like, we're talking Serge Gainsbourg on a bender type dark circles, and that's after a full night's sleep! They've been there since I was 12, and they're a part of me that I've done my absolute best to embrace and not always feel like I need to cover up. Since I stopped pretty much altogether wearing makeup during the week, it's helped me feel comfortable in my own skin and they don't bother me as much! I'm sure there are some people out there who think I look like shit, but I don't actually give a flying fuck anymore. Not wearing makeup has actually helped me feel less self conscious about them when I do wear makeup, because I'm less obsessed with re-touching my concealer every 5 mins and I can just live my life.

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I heard, like, literally years ago that Kevyn Aucoin's concealer was the best in the biz, but was always super put off by the 48$ price tag and I just kept searching. But I decided to treat myself for my birthday earlier this month and splurged on my very own Sensual Skin Enhancer and OMG YOU GUYS THE RUMORS ARE TRUEEEEEEE. This shit is waterproof and budge-proof. I mean this does not leave your face all day long! And it blends so so so nicely there are no awkward lines. There are tons of shades to pick from so you can get an exact match, just make sure you try a sample at Sephora first. Also, this shit is foundation! It's so insanely thick, you can take the tiniest of dabs and mix with either an oil, moisturizer, or lighter skin tint for some really great, even coverage. I can't stress enough how little of this you need to use. I am truly living my best life with this concealer. It's so worth the price tag because it's going to live forever, like the kids in Fame.

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In other news, I've been doing lots of playground strolling as it's starting to become apparent that our outdoor days are numbered. And is it just me or is this year's version of helicopter parenting even more intense than before? Like, it's bad enough when parents are standing directly next to their kids and narrating their playtime for them, but lately it seems everywhere I turn there are parents actively interfering with their children's and other kids playtime. Like, I get playing with your kid if no one else is around, or if your kid asks you to play with him, but what I've been seeing lately is more than that. Parents are interrupting kids who are talking and playing and trying to get in on the action and participate. Like, guys? Maybe take a step back and let your kid socialize, since it's very apparent that this is what he is trying to do! It's good for them to talk to other kids! And work out how they're playing together without adult input! It's been driving me nuts! We're at the point where we can't even let kids who are actively playing and having a good time do so without interference? Guys. Step back, sit on a bench, enjoy your coffee. Isn't it a million times more rewarding for both you and your child if you sit back and watch them having a wonderful time with another child?

Anyways, that's what I've been thinking about lately. Does everyone have a Halloween costume yet? I love children in costumes, there's just nothing sweeter! And bonus points if they pick something not TV related, you know? But either way, it's so cute. I'll never get used to the fact that kids in NYC go trick-or-treating in bars and shops and bodegas as opposed to knocking on doors, but I do find it supremely charming. I'll be hunkering down and staying away from the crazies, as much as I can! I'm such a grump when it comes to Halloween, the energy is just too much for me. The last few years when I've needed a last minute costume I've just thrown on the old Joan Crawford face and it's worked well enough!

I guess today's post is a bit more newsletter-like, and maybe it'll be that way for a while as I sort out my schedule. At least I can pop over and say hi and maybe give ya some links! Have a good one!

Well, this is horrifying.

Surviving a Tiger Mom.

Self-esteem and teen girls.

All I want is to eat mussels every day, but I'm too chicken to make them myself!

Running in heels.

What a nightmare scenario.

The only thing getting me through til the election. Plus therapy. And lots of wine.

A real life she-ro. She was interviewed on Lenny this morning as well.

If you're not already reading everything Ann Friedman writes, start with her newsletter.

Old news that still makes me tear up.

Always looking for career advice these days.

Thrilled to be a new member here.

Buy my friend Jinnie's book!

My favorite thing I wrote this week.

So glad my book club is reading Maria Semple's latest this month!

Oh, Botox, I just don't know.

Really gonna do my best to not just live in black clothing all fall and winter long.

 

All Natural

Hope everyone had an absolutely lovely weekend. I must confess: it was my birthday yesterday and I was utterly spoiled by Theo and my friends. I'm one of those I'm-grateful-to-be-alive-another-year-but-let-me-revel-in-the-turmoil-of-feeling-the-acute-passage-of-time-birthday types, and would prefer to stay holed up and contemplating my own mortality while staring at my aging hands all weekend. Luckily, I have my people who make me do things, and I had the smallest of birthday gatherings at one of my favorite spots in my neighborhood and it was absolutely lovely. So there's that! 32! I hope it's a good one!

One of the things I love about my birthday season is I get to really pamper myself; and that usually means a new haircut and color. I decided to get my hair cut by my beloved stylist, Robyn, back when I was home in LA, and made the decision for the first time in many years to not color my hair. I tend to go dark in the Fall and Winter, as my natural color tends to fade to a very light, reddish brown with blonde streaks. Which is lovely for the summer, but generally I prefer to go a bit more goth in the winter. But, I just wasn't feeling it this year.

A v embarrassing selfie of my current hair color situation.

A v embarrassing selfie of my current hair color situation.

For one thing, I'm totally loving my grey hairs. There's a lot of them, and I think they're cute and they add a nice shimmer to my hair. I love having that contrast without having to get highlights! Nature's highlights, I suppose. I've always wanted a shock of grey hair like Stacy London's or Claire in Outlander once the show reaches the 1960s, but it's highly unlikely that I'll ever go grey like that. I'll just always have a random smattering.

Starz / Outlander

Starz / Outlander

Grey's aside, my hair has somewhat resisted turning the icky orange-y, bronze-y color it usually is by the end of summer which is what usually propels me to dye it dark again. Though it does still have a couple blonde tips from last year.  I'm really feeling how natural and soft it is these days. It's obviously super healthy because I'm not putting any harsh chemicals on it, which means less split ends and lots of shine.

I revisted Man Repeller's article on how natural hair color is in, and I just have to completely agree on every front! Even with my greys abounding, there's a sweetness and a youthfulness to sporting your natural color that I'm really digging. And it's a definite trend that I've been noticing in NYC these past few months. I'm seeing more and more natural hair colors out everywhere (praise hands emoji let the crazy colors be on their way out!) Even women who are committed life-long blondes are tending to skew more to a natural looking baby blonde than to strong platinum or bright yellow color. It's so soft and pretty! I'm loving it! It's empowering to see women of all ages just rocking what they got! I mean, is there anyone on this planet for whom Linda Rodin isn't total goals anyways?

 

 

For You and Me

Hope you guys all had a lovely week! I am LIVING for this cozy fall weather, and am super excited to hole up this rainy weekend. I've been listening to lots of Billie Holliday and Edith Piaf Pandora stations this week, while consuming copious amounts of Trader Joe's Fall Harvest Tea. Have you ever tried it? It's my favorite tea in the world, it's so delicious and soothing. I'm at like three or four cups a day right now. It's a seasonal flavor so I just try to get as much in me as I possibly can while TJ's is still stocking it. I buy like three boxes a week, it's absurd.

I know I've been kind of absent around here, I hope no one is upset about it (though most likely, I'm being a total narcissist and no one gives a shit.) But I've been spending basically every spare moment that I am not babysitting writing for Hello Giggles. I'm super excited about it, but it means I have pretty much not a second free in my day. I wake up early and write, go babysit, write while my Lamb naps, then I come home and write some more until my eyes feel like they're gonna bleed. Basically, it's awesome and I'm so happy to be writing for them. But it's a lot. If you're ever missing me here just wander over there! I'll do my best to keep it up here, but sometimes it may be a bit spotty. At the moment, my priorities are taking good care of my little Lamb and keeping up with my workload on HG. So far, so good!

Other than the fact that my eye allergies are killing me and I've been in glasses all week, I think it'll be a good weekend! Have fun and stay cozy, my friends! Here's some links for your eyeballs and a little ditty for your heart!

What would you do?

Loved this unexpectedly sweet story about a father, son, and Paris Fashion Week.

Stories like these are frighteningly common.

As someone who loves thinking and talking about death, watching Six Feet Under was a great morbid release.

How was school?

Families vs. autism.

Parenting as a full-time job, and why that's bad for women.

Never forget the neck!

 

Here we go

Hi! I'm back! Technically I've been back for a week, but, guys? It seriously took a while to get back in the groove. Between the jet lag and catching up on all the work I had fallen behind on, I've been an actual madwoman these past few days. Luckily, things are evening out again, for the first time since I got back I was able to fall asleep at an appropriate time last night (despite the fact that I was up late watching the debates) and woke up feeling like an almost-human.

My time in California was lovely, if a bit of a whirlwind. I'm very happy to be home though. And right in time for the best season of the year! I've been rocking my mom jeans every day and I couldn't be more pleased. The downside is that my allergies have kicked back in so it's been glasses central over here. So since makeup and contacts are out of the picture for a few days, I've been stepping up my skin game. THIS COMES AS A SURPRISE TO NO ONE. My vanity knows no bounds. But if I'm going to have puffy, red eyes and glasses the size of Jupiter sliding off my face all week, you better believe my skin is gonna be shimmering like a fucking star.

I'm now 100% devoted to the TonyMoly sheet masks that Urban Outfitters is carrying. I wrote an article last week about how Urban is a surprisingly great beauty resource, despite all their issues. And these TonyMoly sheets are just SUCH a good deal. They're significantly better than the Sephora sheet masks and much cheaper. You can get 4 for 10$, which is a steal in my opinion. I've been using them every other day for the past week or so and my skin is in really bright, glowy, and clear.

I also FINALLY got my backordered Glossier Haloscope highlighter after months of waiting. I was concerned that it'd be oily on my skin since it has coconut oil in it, but luckily my skin totally took to it and it really was as glowy as advertised. Would really have come in handy during the summertime, but oh well! I love how smooth it is and I can't feel it on my skin when it's there, which is a plus. It also blends really easily so I don't have to worry about looking streaky.

You know I'm a Glossier ride-or-die, but to be honest, I do think the majority of their products are manufactured for people with perfect skin. I can't imagine having oily skin and being able to use the Haloscope or skin tint. That said, I do think their new line of serums, The Supers, are really great. I was really skeptical about these serums, mainly because I'm like, why didn't you just make one fucking powerful serum instead of making three separate ones? That still kind of boggles my mind.

The three serums are called Super Pure, Super Glow, and Super Bounce, and each have different vitamins that help boost your skin depending on what it needs that day. This is frustrating to me because rarely do I have just one skin need a day, so I have absolutely been blending them together. Usually just two at a time, though I doubt there'd be any harm in using all three at once. At night I've been using two at a time and then putting my Kiehl's Midnight Recovery Concentrate on over it, and waking up like a glowy angel baby.

All in all, I do think the serums work and have been giving my skin a really nice boost that is leaving it super soft and baby-like, even despite the fact that I've been scratching my eyeballs out and acting like a crazed tiger any time Theo comes near me with my medicated eye drops. The embarrassing selfie below is me after a couple days of using the serum and I have the Haloscope on my cheeks as well.

Color corrected for my scarf and lipstick, but left my skin alone.

Color corrected for my scarf and lipstick, but left my skin alone.

If you've never used a serum before or can't afford to get your dream serum quite yet, these are a really affordable alternative, comparatively. I would imagine that it's especially ideal for people in their early/mid twenties, who are just starting to take their next steps with taking care of their skin. But again, as I said, I've seen benefits on my craggy old 32 year-old (as of this coming Sunday, barf) and it's definitely better for my wallet than say, my dream Aesop stuff.

What do you think? Have you tried them out? I'll post a picture of the Haloscope when I get home from babysitting tonight. If you want to try out the Glossier stuff, click here for 20% off your first purchase!

Littles Fall Fashions

I'll have you know that it takes just the most tremendous amount of self-control to stop myself from purchasing baby clothes for my fictional future children. I love love loveeeeeee baby clothes. There is just nothing sweeter in the world. So you'll just have to deal while I indulge myself in some of my favorite fall fashion picks for wee ones. I gravitate towards gender neutral clothes and colors in general, though I can't resist a tiny baby dress when I see one! The Hanna Andersson jumper is giving me major Heidi on the mountain vibes and I LOVE IT. I would 100% wear it in my size. I'm loving the prevalence of rust in these kids' lines, and you put a baby in stripes and I am DONE. Take advantage of these Labor Day sales that are cropping up and snag some of these adorable little outfits for your babbies, fictional or no!

Milk

How is it Monday already? I need so many more sleeps! It's just never enough, am I right? I went out of town with my girlfriends this weekend and as always it was wonderful to get out of the city. The traffic on the way out there was brutal though, I'm definitely not used to being in cars anymore! Why do they go so fast? You'll be happy to know that despite being the most nauseous and carsick person on the planet I did not barf during our journey.

Speaking of being nauseous, if you know me you might be surprised to see the title of today's post as I am a vehement opponent of milk. No, I'm not vegan; cheese courses through my veins and I would bathe in milkshakes if I could. I just hate the taste and consistency and smell of regular, plain milk. I truly don't understand why anyone over the age of 16 drinks it, it actually horrifies me. Take a calcium pill and get a grip! Even as a child I'd have to put tons of chocolate in my milk to get it down, and, you guys? I don't really even like chocolate. It was just the only thing that made it palatable. When adults drink milk for pleasure, it truly boggles my mind. When I lived with my sister in Los Angeles, I came home from work one evening to find her and Theo sitting on the couch quietly watching TV and drinking milk in near total darkness. It was like walking in on a horror film, I'm sorry I didn't include a trigger warning just then.

So, it's funny that the new, trendy, supposedly cool girl makeup is a brand called Milk Makeup and I think that I love it. You can get it at Sephora, Urban Outfitters and very soon it'll be available at Birchbox as well. They're going down a similar marketing route that Glossier did, harnessing the power of social media and the appeal of the cool girl to get their products out to the masses. They're all about being "high concept, low maintenance." I was skeptical at first that it would be a low quality product, but I must admit to being pleasantly surprised! Not only are their products manufactured in an eco-friendly facility, but they're also cruelty-free, vegan, paraben-free, and made of high quality oils and natural ingredients.

I've yet to actually purchase any Milk products, but they've become my go-to makeup when I stop into Sephora to freshen up before going out after work. What? Everyone does it. I have to try stuff before I buy it! I am especially impressed with their highlighters, because I really thought they would be too oily and over the top for me. But I liked them so much that I even took a picture of their Holographic Stick next to their Highlighter on my arm so that you could see what they look like. I'm super into how highly pigmented the Holographic stick, it's so fun! And the lavender tint makes it extra space-agey. I was initially worried the highlighter would be too dark for my face skin, but it actually blends really beautifully and is the perfect subtle glow. I usually lean towards pearly highlighters, but the Milk highlighter made me look super dewy in a perfectly natural way. I was very pleased!

Left, Holographic Stick. Right, Highlighter.

Left, Holographic Stick. Right, Highlighter.

I also tried their Coverage Duo, thinking as I always do that it would do nothing for my insane under eye circles. I was pleasantly surprised by the fact that not only is the actual coverage great, but the consistency of both the little marshmellow puff side and the pot side are really creamy without creasing. It was long lasting, hydrating, and blended beautifully. I will definitely be investing in this guy.

If you're interested in the brand I definitely recommend checking out their site before heading to Sephora, their concept is really interesting and I appreciate their commitment to their aesthetic. I also love the minimalist packaging. I also appreciate that they have videos of people trying their products on the site. It's just so helpful when trying to determine if they're worth buying! I'll be really interested to see where this company goes and what kind of products they roll out in the future. Would you try it out? Do you like drinking milk? Are you a monster or a child?

Re-Calibrating My Self-Care Routine

As I've mentioned before, my love of beauty is rooted in my belief in the importance of self-care. Do I love how pretty my nails look when I get a manicure? Yes, of course, duh, I'm a Libra and aesthetics are important to me. But the best part is that I get an hour all to myself, where I'm not pushing around a stroller, or answering emails on my phone, and I don't have a baby or a dog's hot, sweaty body pressed up against mine at all times. It's the same any time I take a moment to do something for myself, like masking, or getting my eyebrows and 'stache threaded (as much as it hurts!) It's a chance to exhale and briefly escape from the daily grind. For the most part, staying on top of my self-care routine is a priority and I am able to successfully incorporate it into my daily and weekly routines. But as with all things, it's easy to slip off it and get in a rut.

I'm super lucky that I get sent lots of products to test and write about for this blog as well as the various other sites I freelance for. You'd think with a relatively constant influx of beauty products that need to be tested and reviewed that I'd constantly be working on my beauty and taking care of myself, but to be honest, a lot of the time it just feels like work. So even though for the past few weeks I've been (thankfully) very busy working on lots of great projects and trying out awesome products, (which explains my absence here) I haven't exactly been taking care of myself, and it's shown in my anxiety levels and moods. A lot of it has to do with the time of year. August is gross; it's hot and humid, it's depressing because it's the end of summer, and I'm starting to feel all the impending weight of the end of the year beginning to bear down on me. I have been in serious need of a reboot.

First things first, I caved and got an air conditioner this weekend, which if you know me is almost unimaginable. I've always been highly resistant to air conditioners, firstly because I am sensitive to the dry air and to the cold, which sounds ridiculous but what can I do, I am who I am. Secondly, it kills me to know how bad air conditioners are for the environment. Even the so-called energy saving ones are such a drain, not to mention the flow of horrible shit it's expelling out into the air. It gives me the shivers just to think about. A lot of my anxiety is based in how we are harming the environment, and not having an AC has really helped me feel like I'm doing my part in staving off the inevitable apocalypse and calm those fears a bit. (In addition to a whole bunch of other hippie shit I partake in to assuage my guilt.) That said, the last few weeks have really taken a toll on me physically and emotionally. I'm fairly certain that I've had heat exhaustion with basically no relief. When I'm hot and melting and in a bad mood, I'm certainly not bothering to take care of my appearance in the slightest. And if I think I look like hot garbage, I'm most likely also feeling like hot garbage.

I've had the first good night's sleep in weeks since we got the AC on Sunday, and today I woke up feeling more like myself and less like a swamp demon from hell. I had a little (large) splurge at Glossier, and I can't wait to slap those masks on my face and finally try their Gen G lipstick, which I ordered it in Jam. I am in serious need of some exfoliation before I hit the beach on Thursday, and now that I can finally take a hot shower again I'm ready to scrub my skin til I'm as soft as a baby.

I highly encourage everyone to work on their self-care routines. For some people it includes working out, or meditating, or staying on top of flossing! It's easy to let the grind start to wear you down and not realize that you're slipping when it comes to taking care of your basic needs. And yes, I think self-care is part of our basic needs. Sometimes you just need to re-evaluate, try to figure out what's making you feel out of sorts, and try to make gentle, slight adjustments to bring yourself back to an even keel. It doesn't have to be some radical thing!

If you're needing a bit of a splurge to re-calibrate, click this link for 20% off at Glossier, those masks are perfect for taking a bit of time for yourself. I'd love to hear your tips and tricks for taking care of yourself when you're starting to feel a bit out of whack! And when all else fails, swipe on some lipsticks and get thee to a giant, cold tiki cocktail!

 

For You and Me

Is there anything more unpleasant than a nasty summer cold? I am so glad it's behind me now, for the most part. I spent the entirety of yesterday laying in bed and it worked wonders. It's easy to forget how important it actually is to rest when you're sick; seems easy enough to remember logically, but in practice it's much harder. Even if you do have a day to rest it's so difficult to not turn it into a day of errands, or try to do something at night. But spending 24 hours doing absolutely nothing while laying in bed or on my couch kicked the cold out faster than all the zinc and turmeric and lemon juice in the world could have. I am reborn! Oh, has anyone seen The Night Of? It's a new procedural on HBO and thanks to my illness-induced couch laying I started it yesterday and it's so great and so stressful. Which apparently is all that TV is these days. Great and stressful.

I'm so excited that the Olympics are finally starting! As much as I loathe sports and sports culture, I am a huge fan of the Olympics and I await them excitedly every two years. I can't even decide if I love the winter games or the summer games more, they're all so great! I hope that there aren't too many infrastructure issues or safety issues that get in the way of them. It's such a shame that there is so much corruption and exploitation amid what should be a celebration of human accomplishment.

I hope you have a wonderful weekend full of joy and love. Don't forget to watch Simone Biles kick butt this weekend! Here's some links for your eyeballs and a little ditty for your heart.

Cosplay revenge.

Nicole Cliffe is hilarious and a national treasure and also a werewolf.

If only I lived in the country so I could really see this.

Love this kid.

I will never understand the urge to compliment someone's thinness.

Still having the same conversations, almost 40 years later.

"Do not lose hope. We found new hope. There is no hope..."

A cute cartoon about manners.

Our sad reality.

This article made me realize I had the same internalized misogyny as a child as well.

Revisiting A Love of Sentences.

I hope this is true because I am in the midst of my truest awkward hair phase.

I would like to eat this please.

 

Inside Out

Happy Monday! I hope you all had a lovely weekend. You know I'm L. I. V. I. N. G. because the weather cooled down and I didn't wake up in a pool of sweat several times a night. It's extremely unpleasant. If you follow me on Insta (as you should! @lourdzilla) you'll know I got caught in the rain at my favorite tiny street fair on Saturday, the Hester Street Fair. It was Girl Power Day, so all the booths were run by female small-business owners. Even though it started raining, it was worth it to hang out and meet some of the ladies selling their wares. They always have the best snacks, so of course we indulged in some treats while sitting under an umbrella and enjoying the pitter-patter of the rain and the lovely music floating over from the Dj booth. I even shared some of my banana ice cream with Maeby, who rightly deserved it as it was her birthday weekend. 

Yesterday I woke up with what I was desperately hoping was allergies, but as time has now told is a full-blown summer cold. C'est la vie. I saw it coming last week when my little Lamb had the sniffles. It's like, "Ah, yes, that shall be me in a week!" What can you do, it comes with the territory! Luckily, it's pretty mild as far as colds go, and I'm not feeling too terrible overall. Mainly just have a very runny and stuffy nose. Fingers crossed, I'm hoping to avoid the nasty cough that always seems to accompany colds. So all things considered, not feeling especially concerned about my beauty today. My lil nose is getting rubbed raw and red from all the nose blowing, so I'm making sure it stays hydrated by alternating between Camellia Seed Oil and Glossier's Balm Dot Com. If you've never tried camellia seed oil I highly recommend giving it a try for when you need a shot of extra skin hydration. I only use it when I'm quite dry, because it really packs a punch. 

I wanted to share with you one of my secret potions that makes me feel better when I'm sick and happens to have lots of beauty-fortifying ingredients. If you've never tried Golden Milk Tea before, give it a shot! It boosts the immune system, helps with depression and anxiety, and is great for your hair, skin and nails! There are lots of recipes on the Internet, but here's mine!

Steep about a half inch of ginger and a tablespoon of turmeric in half a cup of boiling water for about 5 minutes.

Add the juice of half a lemon, a teaspoon of cinnamon, a sprinkle of cayenne, a pinch of black pepper, a squirt of honey, and a quarter cup of coconut milk and mix it all together. 

It's got a strange, strong flavor at first, but once you get used to it it's so creamy and delicious, you'll want it every night! There are lots of variations of this online, so you can also play around with the proportions and see what works for your taste buds. For example, lots of people prefer using lemon and ginger tea bags as opposed to using it fresh and that totally works too! Part of me thinks I should experiment in making it as a smoothie tonight, if it's too hot to drink tea. 

If you have any cold-busting tips that happen to double as beauty tips I'd love to hear them! 

For You and Me

Happy Friday, yet again! Just in time for this so-called "heat dome" to take over the city. I'm hoping it's a good excuse to drink some pina coladas and go see Ghostbusters. If I could do these things at the same time that would be the best case scenario. I have loved pina coladas since I was a child and my love has never waned in all these years. They are the perfect summer drink! (Yes, they were non-alcoholic when I was a child.) Hmmm, what are the chances that I'll get home from work tonight and there will magically be a bottle of pina colada mix and some malibu rum in my apartment? If only there were magical alcoholic apartment fairies, or like, a boyfriend who could do that.

I've had to do a bit of a social media cleanse this week with the RNC going on. I'm picking up some bits and pieces of info as I go, but I'm just in a place where I need to protect my heart from the frightening reality of the hateful platform that the GOP is officially operating on. I did enjoy some good Melania memes, though. I'm keeping it a bit lighter in the links section in terms of political stuff this week, a lady can only take so much. I wish for us all to bask in the peace of a gentle, love-filled light and to have unlimited access to a cheese fountain.

I hope you have a great weekend! Stay out of the heat! Drink a pina colada! Here are some links for your eyeballs and a little ditty for your heart:

I love witches.

Satellite babies.

Makes my heart hurt.

Astrophysicist, Wine Lover, and Foodie.

An embarrassment of pandas.

I need to make these ASAP. Erin is a genius!

I need an off-the-shoulder minidress IMMEDIATELY IT IS AN EMERGENCY.

How to deal with unsolicited parenting advice. (Mine isn't unsolicited because you come here of your own volition...right?)

This bookshelf would be perfect for my tiny lil home.

Dream home.

Mud for your pregnancy skin.

Not to be a dick...but here are Nordstrom's best beauty deals from their anniversary sale.

All my fave things in a pasta!

My favorite two Instagram accounts to rabbit-hole down when I can't sleep: Juniper and paint mixing.

Hoping to pop in here this weekend.

Their Bodies, Themselves.

I hope that wherever you are the day is as beautiful as it is here in NYC. We've been granted a slight reprieve from the heat wave and it's a nice reminder why this city is such a beauty. Listen, I know I talk about the weather a lot on here, but my life is dictated by it in every way! And it never was before when I lived in Los Angeles. When you're born and raised somewhere that you don't need to give the weather a second thought, the moment you are somewhere that it actually affects the quality of your life it permeates your every thought! So sorry to say you'll just have to deal with my rantings and ravings about the weather for as long as I live here!

Last Wednesday we chatted about getting kids to eat salads, and in general I love helping kids find their passion for healthy foods. It's one of the best parts of being a nanny. But I think it's also important to take a moment and talk about how we influence the way kids eat through our own comments and actions, in ways that can really affect children on a deeper psychological level. Personally speaking, I grew up watching every adult woman in my life obsess over their diet. There was never a gathering of extended family that didn't include a breakdown of what every person was doing for their diet and a lengthy conversation about what was wrong with their bodies. Not even being dramatic about it, it was always a commonplace and casual conversation. I know for a fact I am not alone here. Every woman I know grew up hearing their mother's talking negatively about their own bodies without a second thought about how that might affect their own child's view of themselves. And to be honest, I don't blame anyone here. With my generation especially there just wasn't the awareness of how our parent's behavior deeply affects our psyches, not to the extent that we know now.

I think it can be really easy to forget that kids remember every little thing you say and do, that when a mother says, "I hate my nose," a kid thinks, "Well, we have the same nose, so I guess I'm supposed to hate mine too." And listen, I'm not innocent of this either! My inner self-hating monologue is always on full blast, letting me know that my stomach is too fat, my cheeks contain multitudes, and I truly believe that if I had thinner arms there would be world peace -- but I keep this shit TO MYSELF when I'm around kids. When I'm around kids, I say things like, "I love how my nails look today!" and, "Look how strong I am!" when I lift and spin them around, and, "I love how I look in my dress today!" And while it may sound ridiculous and conceited, I think kids need to see adults loving themselves and expressing joy in their own bodies. It starts an inner dialogue for them, where they can feel comfortable saying and thinking, "Oh yeah! I am really strong! I love my nose because it helps me smell my favorite things!"

This goes without saying, but negatively commenting on our kid's bodies is just as toxic, if not more so. I linked to this article from The New York Times a while back, and it really struck a chord with me. I don't know a single person, adult or child, who has benefited from being called out for their weight. It just doesn't work that way. The way to have healthy kids is to model health for them, both physically and emotionally. If kids begin having eating issues, most likely there are underlying emotional causes that are causing that, and believe me, nitpicking their bodies isn't going to help them in the slightest. 

Kid's don't need to hear about your diet, and when you workout explain that it's because it helps you stay healthy and strong, and let your kids see you indulging in a treat every once in a while. I once babysat a lovely family in Los Angeles where the mother would only eat two slices of turkey for dinner in the months leading up to the Oscars. And you better believe that when her daughter turned 11 years old, she started requesting two slices of turkey for her dinner as well. If we make eating food a joyful and healthy experience, balanced with body positivity, I truly believe we can change the way kids view themselves and get their self-esteem through the roof. I don't need to go over all the reasons why having low self-esteem is detrimental to kids, so why add even a tiny kernel of self-doubt into their minds?

I know this is a really tough and sensitive topic, but I really am adamant that the conversations around our bodies have to change for the sake of our children.

 

Signature Scents

These days, NYC's signature scent is that delightful mix of hot garbage, piss, and that completely putrid yet unidentifiable smell that wafts around street corners and assaults your senses at every turn. If you've ever spent a summer in New York, you know what I mean. I think the combination of oppressive heat and random city smells is what makes so many people opt for lighter, cleaner fragrances during the summer months, which is what we are talking about today! I personally have always kept my fragrance choices very limited. Mainly because perfume is expensive, but also because I've always really been into the concept of having a "signature scent," which is a pretty commonly held belief, I think. My earliest scent memories are of my grandmother's Chanel No. 5 and my mom's Dior perfume that she'd wear when she was going out to a party or a fancy dinner. I'd sneak a spritz here and there and feel supremely elegant. Scents are so powerful! I love the idea that someone associates a certain smell with you. There's something so romantic and comforting about it. Every night when I get in bed I put lavender oil on my wrists, and I like the idea of knowing that one day my future kids will associate that smell with me at bedtime.

When it comes to perfumes, I stick to one or two faves that I've had in rotation for years. Some since I was a teenager! The only weird thing about me (okay, one of the weird things about me) is that I tend to do the opposite of fragrance trends. Meaning, in the summer time I want heavy, sexy florals like jasmine, gardenia, combined with woody, earthy scents and in the winter I go for very light, clean scents that are reminiscent of soap and baby powder. I like the crispness of it in the winter. That said, I really, really want to expand my perfume repertoire in the coming months/years. I want to start investing in higher end versions of the scents I love, and to that end I even made a new Pinterest board! It's a mix of what I've got and what I want. These days, what "signature scent" means to me is less about it being one specific perfume, and more about being a fragrance profile, if you will -- which is why I'm so eager to expand my collection.

My every day, go to scent in the summertime is Lust by Lush. I love how heavy and floral is, and it reminds me of the jasmine that blooms in LA. I've had it in both solid and spray form, and while the spray bottle lasts longer, it does stain, which is such a bummer. You basically have to apply it while nude and then wait for it to dry, which is very inconvenient. So I've been using the solid version and love it. I rub it on my wrists and under my ears as well as under my hair. When I had an undercut I would rub it into my hair and loved it. If you don't mind a bit of oil, you can also rub it into the ends of your hair.

I'm hoping to one day upgrade this guy to Lys 41 by Le Labo, which is basically the high end version of this perfume. Similar floral scents, but with woody undertones. I am obsessed with it and would do pretty much anything to have even a tiny roll on bottle. It is so cost-prohibitive though, I've never been able to justify it. Also dying to try their Jasmine 17 body oil, can you imagine how luxurious that must be? Why is the world holding me back from being the fancy rich pre-revolution French lady that I was clearly meant to be?

I've also been gravitating to rose-based scents like crazy this year. I used to hate it and actively avoid it, to the point where when I was living in Morocco and we went to the most stunning rose garden I've ever seen, I skipped the gift shops and didn't get myself any fragrances or oils like everyone else was. I could kick myself. My go to rose scent right now is actually an olive oil body balm by 80 Acres called Bohemian Rose. It's so rich and smells like actual heaven. I always get compliments when I'm wearing it. I use it on my hands and then always rub some into my neck as well.

My upgrade version of this is the Rose Atlantic perfume that I finally got a whiff of this past weekend when I popped into Catbird to pick up my sleep mask. It will surprise no one to hear that I refuse to put up curtains in my apartment, therefore a sleep mask is mandatory unless you want to wake up at 5am with the beaming hot sun. Anyhoo, the Rose Atlantic perfume is the perfect blend of rose and bergamot, another favorite scent of mine. I'm so glad they let me try it on because my MEGA-UPGRADE version of this is the classic Rodin LLC perfume that I am obsessed with and will do literally anything to get my filthy little paws on my own bottle. In my mind, this is the end all and be all of perfumes. And a few months back they put a little sign up at Catbird asking that you please not sample it, most likely because I (and others I am sure) would go in there and just spritz themselves and walk out. If there is anything more heavenly than this jasmine and neroli heavy fragrance then I don't want to know about it.

Before I wrote this I was like, wait a minute, should I be sharing my perfume secrets? I literally just read an article that was like, DO NOT EVER TELL PEOPLE WHAT YOUR PERFUME IS. But here I am, unable to keep my mouth shut. I want to share the love. Also, it's not like most people are gonna run out and get them, though if you do, please credit me. Also, make sure you give these brands a try, you could find something more to your liking in their fragrance lines that aren't necessarily these. I tend to gravitate towards heavier scents anyways that lots of people find to be too overwhelming. Also, anyone have any connections at Byredo? I've never tried any of their scents and am absolutely dying to. They're the new It fragrance brand, and I know there's something there that I'll be absolutely in love with. What are your signature scents? Tell me!

 

 

 

Kid Eats: Salads

I can't deal with cooking in the summer because if I turn the oven on the entire apartment becomes a furnace. It's just not worth it! I don't know if I mentioned it before, but Theo and I don't have AC in our lil studio. I won't bore you with the million reasons why, but suffice it to say that the environmental impact + the electric bill are more than enough justification for me to sweat it out through the summer. We do have a FANTASTIC fan though, I promise we aren't suffering. But back to food. 

I love cooking and am always trying to find recipes that involve the least amount of stove-top time, and if I can avoid it altogether even better! Salads are definitely a summer staple in my house -- I have about 6 different recipes on rotation that make me feel full and are super tasty. If you know me, you know I'm not a big salad person, so there's been a lot of trial and error where salads are concerned in my home.

Whenever I suggest that kids eat salad, I'm usually met with eyerolls and skepticism. Which, first of all, rude, and second of all, give your kids some credit! As with all things, if you introduce salads when kids are very little and they are a normal part of their diet, then they won't reject it when they're older. I've always said that it's all about not giving kids junk options. If your kid has a taste for chicken nuggets at an early age well then, duh, he's gonna reject everything til you give him chicken nuggets every night! If from babyhood they are given fresh fruits and veggies, then they'll crave them instead. Kids are geniuses at knowing which foods are high in sugars, and will request carrots and bananas when they're having a sugar craving.

Anyways, back to salads. Kids will eat salad! I promise you! Here are my two "gateway" salads, as I like to call them, that have literally never been rejected by a child. The first is as easy as pie and since it mixes fruits and veggies, there are no foreign ingredients in it that would put a child off the salad. 

Here's what you need:

1 apple

1 tomato

A handful of shelled edamame

1 Avocado

Chop the apple, tomato, and avocado into bite sized chunks, throw in the edamame, drizzle with olive oil, salt lightly, and mix. Voila! Salad! I've literally never seen a child reject this in my entire life. Doesn't matter who you are or where you live. It's tasty, light, healthy, and easy as hell.

Salad no. 2 is the next step into the salad world for kids. It's savory, not sweet, but has enough kid-beloved ingredients (peas and parm) to mask any sneaky efforts to hide greens in there. I made this guy last weekend and was going to take a picture for this post, but we devoured it before I could remember to do so. I made it and then we promptly packed it up, took Mae to Tompkins Square Park, and watched a screening of Rocky Horror Picture Show as we ate it. I mean... New York in the summer I love you.

Here's what you need:

1 bag of peas (if they're frozen give them a quick blanching so they're cooked but still have a bite)

1 handful of finely chopped mint

A sprinkle of arugula or spinach

A generous helping of Parmesan

Dressing: A couple tablespoons of olive oil, salt, pepper, one peeled garlic clove, and some lemon juice. Mix all the ingredients together and allow the garlic clove to infuse the dressing. Before you dress the salad, REMOVE THE GARLIC CLOVE. This part is key. You only want the essence of garlic in there.

Mix all the ingredients together and serve!

Here's the trick, the first few times you make this, only put the tiniest amount of arugula or spinach in there, so as to not overwhelm the salad with it. Then as time passes, and they fall in love with it, you can add more and more. I prefer arugula, but since spinach is milder it's usually an easier salad vessel for kids. Just make sure it's raw. Even I hate cooked spinach. (Unless it's from Lil Frankies, in which case I love it. But that's because it's smothered in cheese. I too am a child.)

I promise you can get your kid to eat and love salads before the summer is out. It's all about how you present it. It shouldn't be a punishment, and there's nothing wrong with hiding the salad underneath what I like to call "goodies" like Parmesan and familiar fruits. Next step, a strawberry and spinach salad with goat cheese! It's totally doable!

Brush-a, Brush-a, Brush-a

Happy Monday! Hope you all had a lovely and restful weekend. I'm back in the swing of things and am eternally grateful that the heat has gone down a bit. The humidity last week was seriously oppressive, which I'm sure I mentioned before. The only thing I loveeeeee about humidity is how awesome my skin looks all the time. My hair is another story altogether -- it's maybe never looked worse. But I'm rolling with it for now. I'm embracing the double bun look, even if I feel slightly like an overgrown baby.

But back to my skin. These days I'm like a shimmery, sweaty, lil angel and am going makeup-free most days, which is always a joy. I usually go makeup-free when I babysit, but I've even been enjoying my bare skin on the weekends as well with just a swipe of mascara and a liberal amount of sunscreen. If I hadn't just broken my last remaining highlighter, then I'd be adding to my sheen with some of that as well. If you can't look like a melty, glimmering goddess in the summer, than when can you?

So imagine my surprise a few days back when I went back to my old makeup routine and promptly broke out on my cheeks. WTF was happening? It wasn't fair. And then I came upon the horrifying realization that I hadn't cleaned my makeup brushes in weeks, which is why upon immediate contact with my skin, it freaked out. I don't like admitting to this kind of tomfoolery, you guys, but I am doing so to remind you to clean your brushes. Don't be like me and suffer the consequences. Iknow it's a huge pain in the ass to clean them. I usually force myself to do it at least once a month, though in reality you should really be cleaning them once a week. That just seems like a lot to ask of me at the moment. Maybe one day when I have my shit together more I'll clean them every week. But not now.

If you haven't cleaned your brushes recently, or (gasp) ever, here are some tips to make it easy and painless for you.

You don't need to get a fancy brush cleaning mat or contraption to clean them. If you do have one, or want to splurge, then great! They seem really awesome and I've heard great things about them. But to me it's just like, another thing I have to clean and find a spot for in my house. My preferred method of cleaning is to squirt some gentle organic soap, like Dr. Bronner's soap or a mild shampoo into a cup, fill with warm water and let me brushes soak for about 3 minutes. Then I take a wet wash cloth and put it in the sink, and while also allowing water to run over the brush, I rub the brush in circles on the washcloth to get the dirt and makeup that's deep down in the bristles. Once the water is running clear down the drain and isn't depositing color onto the washcloth, I lay it flat on a towel to air dry. DO NOT dry the brushes standing up, as the water will drip down into the handle and could cause mold or other ickiness. 

You can get special brush cleanser to get them clean, I used to use the MAC cleanser all the time and loved it, but you really don't need it if you don't have it.

It won't take you longer than ten minutes to do it and with this heat, if you do it in the evening they'll be dry and ready to go by morning. You'll be so glad you did it. I don't even want to think about all the bacteria and junk that was lingering on mine!